I get jealous too

An Issue of the Chidera Peters Dispatch (CPD)

Hello👋🏾, have you ever felt sad for no reason? Let me rephrase that, have you ever felt sad for no apparent reason? Sometimes there’s a reason, just that it isn’t obvious to you yet. I felt that way this evening, and I can hear someone at the back say, “female hormones be hormoning” 😅 and honestly, the person might be right because I don’t understand how I went from a happy high to a sad low.

Moving on to more exciting things, Happy Mother’s Day to you! I hope you had a good day. I’m also aware that mother’s day can be a trigger or a challenging time for many people - if this is you, I’m sending you a BIG BEAR HUG.

An unrelated photo from a date with the Hubby from the other week

👩🏽‍💻 What I worked on this week

I had a good time hosting a LIVE session on Instagram on Friday. I shared on Money Habits: small steps, BIG change. I broke down the topic into three parts:

A. Get Started: Making sense of your money

B. Get Good: Setting yourself up for financial success

C. Get Smart: Making your money work for you

And the feedback was great, people got so much value from it. You can watch the replay for free. I’m hoping to do these instagram live sessions more frequently.

I spent the better part of my Saturday doing some much-needed spring cleaning. First, I decluttered my wardrobe and oh boy! There were a handful of clothes just taking up space in my wardrobe. Then I reorganised my cloth hangers and shelves, and deep cleaned the kitchen. I was knackered yesterday.

👩🏽‍💻 How do you deal with Jealousy?

I know this might surprise you, but I get jealous too! *pauses for effect*. Shocking right? YES. I. KNOW. 😂. Jokes aside, though, how do you deal with jealousy? One way this feeling creeps into my heart is by comparison. Once I start comparing myself with someone else, I easily start feeling jealous towards them. Here’s the thing, I don’t think feeling jealous is bad; it’s what you do with that feeling that matters. Do you let it linger in your heart and slowly turn to envy and resentment? Or do you address the feeling immediately? Here are some ways I handle feeling jealous:

1. I send them a note or message. Once I notice those feelings of jealousy towards someone, instead of feeling bad about the things I admire about them, I send them a message highlighting those things that made me feel jealous. A note letting them know that I admire XYZ about them. And this helps me a lot.

2. I cheer them on. Once I notice slight jealousy towards anyone, I go out of my way to become their number one cheerleader. I celebrate their wins with them, and I encourage them with my comments. I share their work, and I speak highly of them with others.

3. I pray for them. You can’t genuinely pray for someone and harbour jealousy towards them. The two cannot co-exist because you see it as answered prayers when they win.

🙅🏽‍♀️ Habit tracker

Here’s my progress report on the new habits I’m trying to build. I did well this week except on the healthy eating front. LOL, this week was bloody😭. I ate so much food EVERY DAY. At some point, I was legit concerned, like, is something wrong with me? Why do I have such an appetite? Why is my self-control at critical levels? I hope to regain control of my appetite and cravings this week. Wish me luck😮‍💨.

Chidera’s habits progress tracker

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I’m concluding this newsletter here because I don’t know what else to write about😩. I’m still sad and it’s befuddling my mind. So, that would be all today. Please stay hydrated and use sunscreen. Hugs and killzzzeeesss - Chidera